"Love needs a mirror image in order to
recognize itself in it."
Ricarda Sagehorn & Cornelia Mroseck
Title of the original edition:
“Dualseelen & die Liebe – Wenn das Schicksal auf zwei Herzen trifft”
© 2012 Ricarda Sagehorn & Cornelia Mroseck
Production and Publishing: Books on Demand GmbH, Norderstedt, Germany
English Edition:
© 2019 Ricarda Sagehorn & Cornelia Mroseck
Production and Publishing: Books on Demand GmbH,
Norderstedt, Germany
ISBN: 9783750472952
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There is a moment when you encounter your dual soul and your own soul recognizes its counterpart, that moment is pretty much the most incisive experience you can imagine. Your heart starts laughing, your soul is singing and an incredible feeling of closeness and connectedness emerges. The power of this attraction is gigantic. You literally feel that you are completely made up of pure love. It just can not be described in words.
But mostly this feeling dissolves as fast as it has appeared. While one partner desires nothing more than to be allowed to live this profound love, the other one constantly runs away and literally flees. It seems like being bewitched.
For both partners an odyssey starts which lies between closeness and distance. They do not get together but they also do not separate from each other. The painful dilemma of a dual soul connection has begun. Retreats follow on the most beautiful moments of closeness, suffering follows on the sublime happiness of fulfilled love.
But there is a solution to this messy problem. And there may even be a happy ending to this story.
You have the chance to get together with your dual soul!
You are even destined to lead a shared, happy and fulfilling life with your dual soul! Because that's the destiny of dual souls:
Learning and experiencing unconditional love together!
You were not brought together with him or her to suffer - or to feel eternally that immense grief and pain in the heart. You were not brought together to feel this unbearable separation from the other soul. Rather, you were brought into contact with him or her because, like your counterpart, you shall learn to overcome all the obstacles that stand in your way of loving unconditionally! Isn’t that wonderful? Just listen inside yourself and let these sentences affect you. What does your heart say about that? Does it agree with us? Or does it say something else? Deep inside, your soul should tell you that we are right. Even though your mind or fears may tell you something else.
It is your destiny to find the fulfillment of love in all its beauty in this life! This is the exact purpose of meeting your dual soul.
We know that many of today's websites and books say the opposite, or at least that it is not certain that dual souls really get together to have a relationship.
We tell you: they belong together and they get together! What should be the purpose of having your perfect match plonked in front of you - the literally other half of your being - and then let you despair and snap? We are fully convinced that this can not be the purpose of this matter. And we take this conviction from almost 15 years of experience with this topic, in which we got to know more than 5,000 people who met their dual soul. We were able to give advice in more than 80,000 conversations. And many of them live together with their partner today in complete fulfillment.
In this book, we want to explain to you what nexus exists between you and your dual soul partner, what tasks you both have to accomplish, and how you can get together. It's so much easier than you think. And the more you understand and realize how it works, the easier the way will be for you. But you’re only going to succeed by working on yourself as well. So be open and ready to do something about it. It’s only going to work with putting into practice the guidelines and actions that we give you in this book. Unused knowledge is dead knowledge.
So extract from this book what makes you feel good. Use the insights and tools we offer you to begin your journey. A journey that ends with the beginning of fulfillment with the perfect dream man at your side.
Ricarda & Conny
A short note:
For the sake of simplicity, and because we know that 90% of our readers are women, in the course of this book we will address you in the female form and assume the male counterpart is the partner. So do not feel excluded when you read this book as a man. It also applies to you.
In our culture the term karma is often translated as destiny or even misfortune. There is also something fateful about karma. But bad luck or misfortune have nothing to do with it.
If we looked up karma in a dictionary, we would most likely find a terminology similar to this:
"Karma (Sanskrit for action, deed) is understood as a spiritual concept, according to which every action has inevitable consequences - whether committed in your mind or in reality. These consequences do not necessarily have to appear in this life, but can also have their effects in a later life. In religions (mostly Asian religions) which include the term karma, the belief in rebirth and reincarnation also plays an important role. So the principle of cause and effect, action and consequence, can run like a thread through several lives.
These consequences can be manifold, but above all they are to be understood as a law which in particular falls back on ourselves. Karma is by no means to be understood as "divine grace" or even "punishment", since karma does not judge - it is absolutely neutral.
The cycle of rebirths thus arises through the accumulation of both "positive" and "negative" karma. The goal, however, is not to accumulate as much positive karma as possible, but ultimately to have no karma at all.
In other words, in our lives this means that karma is a superior principle, that all our thoughts and actions are answered according to that law without judging them. In practical terms: any good deed we do or any good thought we have will cause "good karma” as well as bad deeds and thoughts will cause "bad karma". It should always be noted that there is no judgement associated with the words "good" and "bad".
We know this law very well even in our culture when we say “what goes around, comes around”.
So it's a principle of cause and effect - beyond our past and our present lives.
When two people meet they interact. And in their mutual thoughts, feelings and actions the principle of cause and effect vibrates. This means that when we connect with a person, karma arises here.
A karmic love that you encounter today will definitely stem from one of your previous lives. You may assume that there were incidents between the two of you and for each of you individually which today need to be solved. These were most likely not resolved in the respective lives or could not be solved before. And to enable that solution now, you are meeting in this life. New game - new luck.
Karmic love stories can occur in many different ways. In fact, we can say that every partner you have ever had at your side is karmic. But not all karmic connections are to be painful. They can also be joyful and enjoyable. It just depends on how your past life was like and / or what should be learned in this life. Always remember the principle of cause and effect. Positive causes in a past life also have positive effects in the here and now. Negative causes have negative effects.
Some souls we are connected to more closely than to others. With others we have no connection at all. And in between there’s a multitude of options. Elaborating on this complex matter would go beyond the scope of this book. Therefore we are limiting ourselves to some linkages between souls.
The soul clan is a composite of souls that interact with each other in incarnations. Maybe imagine this as an ethnic group. You do not know everyone from your group, most likely only very few, but you still belong to the same clan. This affiliation alone founds a connection. With souls from other clans, you would feel no connection.
The soul family corresponds to our family. Within a clan there are families. These are the souls who are much more connected with each other and also interact with each other like in a family. Soul siblings also belong to this category. And you certainly also know the feeling of being soulmated with someone.
Now it’s going to be particularly interesting for us. With our soulmates we lead our love relationships. They do not necessarily belong to the same soul family but to the same clan. This category also includes twin souls and dual souls. The later two kinds are forms of soulmates that deserve special attention.
You probably already realize that the terms usually coincide with our everyday terms for “clan”, “family” and “partners”. So just interpret them as simple as that. After all, you would not call something an apple if it had the shape of a banana.
Let’s savor what you just read: it seems very likely that you are making karmic connections with soulmates. Especially in relationships we interact a lot with each other, thus creating a lot of causes for a multitude of impacts.
Unfortunately, it is often claimed that there are no karmic entanglements with soulmates. But if you take a deeper look - as we just did - then it is obvious that karma is created in particular with your soulmates.
We are specifically attracted to soul partners. We virtually feel that we are on a similar wavelength with them, on a vibe similar to ours. Interaction with these partners is particularly easy for us. Interacting with one another, dealing with one another creates causes that unfold their effects. It's always like that. And these effects give us reason to react to something and thus create new causes with new effects. In this way a loop is created.
Now you might think that within such a loop you have no chance to ever escape in order to transform a seemingly negative connection into a positive connection. But it is quite the opposite. After all, it is up to us to decide how to react to actions. And that eventually determines whether one can solve karma or create new karma. However, the solutions are not necessarily always the ways we hope for.
Within these solutions for karma, these ways are about learning and developing yourself for not to repeat mistakes, but acting differently and thereby gaining new insights. It is also about the development of your personality and your soul. You should recognize, respect and love yourself more and more. So there is always a precious treasure in these supposedly karmic entanglements. It only needs to be discovered by you.
First and foremost, we therefore learn something about ourselves. And we also learn something about our soulmate. Because through the insights that we gain about ourselves, we also learn to be more understanding and more tolerant towards others. Thus, more and more, we can let others be as they are, love them with all their rough edges, and so we can give them more space to develop themselves without our exaggerated expectations.
We would like to elaborate a bit more on two special soul partners: Twin Souls and Dual Souls.
We want to especially make it very clear that these two concepts mean two completely different things. Many authors use these two terms synonymously, even though they have nothing to do with each other.
When we talk about twins we mean two people who are more than similar. They are almost the same. Duality, however, in general parlance, means two opposing dimensions that form a whole. Here, in contrast to the similarity in the twins, the opposites are in the foreground.
You can imagine an encounter with a twin soul as follows: the two souls meet and understand each other immediately. It's as if you’ve know each other forever and find yourself in the other one. In many ways you are just very similar. Love accompanies a deep sense of friendship. And that is exactly what it is like. Twins are more than friends, but they’re also a close couple. It just matches perfectly. You agree on many things, even if you can be different from each other.
So twin souls usually go into a relationship very quickly and can also live and enjoy this constellation. Their connection can last for years and even decades. Nevertheless, the learning task here is not love or relationship. Most of the time a sense of brotherhood develops, which means a great inner closeness and many friendly emotions. But at some point this no longer suffices for a love relationship. Both partners fit well together, but love becomes more and more friendly or fraternal. The learning task that twin souls have with each other comes into play when it is time to separate. Then love is to be transformed into the intimate friendship which still exists. This friendship should - at best - live on and continue to be lived after the separation. Also for the benefit of their children, if they have any. Only under these conditions will both aspects of the twin soul be lived: love and friendship.
The dual soul is the soul connection that we are going to deal with in this book as this is the most painful soul connection if certain learning tasks are not yet solved.
As we have seen, the conceptualization of duality is opposition. It is similar to day and night. They are completely different, even the opposite of the other, but still part of a whole. Together they make up our days that last for 24 hours. Similarly, ebb and flow, left and right, up and down, black and white and others form dual pairs.
When two dual souls meet, there is also a deep bond, usually from the first moment on. But while twin souls can come together quickly and live a seemingly uncomplicated relationship, this simply does not work for the dual souls. They can not separate from each other. The attraction is extremely high. And they also do not come together perfectly. One soul has the feeling that an insurmountable obstacle stands in between the two of them. One partner desperately wants the relationship, the other one refuses to keep on and literally runs away.
Here the learning task of the dual souls is the right way to deal with love. You could also say that it's about learning to live true love. And both partners initially behave in the true sense of the word dual. While one loves too much, the other one does not want to know about the partner's love. This duality is like a field of tension that first and foremost leads to great suffering.
However, if the field of tension is solved by the fulfillment of the learning tasks, the goal of a dual soul is to enter into a relationship and to live it. Would it make sense to complete a training and then not take the job? No, it wouldn’t.
In order to initiate the karmic learning tasks among dual soul partners, it is of course necessary for both partners to meet each other. The time when this encounter happens often appears coincidental, but it is not at all. Today we know very well that the dual soul partner only appears in one's own life when the timing and the boundary conditions for the learning tasks that need to be solved are perfect. The situations in the lifes of both partners must be 100% suitable for the learning tasks.
When this perfect time is there, it does not matter where both partners are located anywhere around this globe. Destiny brings them together. In this context we have seen some dual soul partners literally coming from the other end of the world and suddenly settling down in the city where the other partner lives. But even the internet is not an unusual way to find the dual soul partner. Online, destiny can overcome even greater distances easily.
When we face our dual soul partner, all that has to happen is a single look in the eye!
Sometimes we say that the eyes are the windows of the soul. One single moment is enough to recognize the other one. Because what we find in the eyes is like an energetic fingerprint. Similar to the “lock and key” model, only this one person can unleash a violent energetic wave that then triggers the typical signs of recognition. No one else but the dual soul partner will be able to arouse these feelings and bring out the unconscious knowledge that the other person has been familiar with oneself ever since.
For the partners, the feeling is always indescribable. You have never felt any comparable feeling for anyone else. Still, it does not have to be the famous "love at first sight". Recognition does not have to be like a lightning strike. It can also happen considerably slower. Sometimes one or both partners need a second look. Others, in turn, have known each other since childhood and have not experienced the feeling of infatuation in their childhood days.
The reason for these differences lies in the concrete learning tasks that the individual partners have to deal with. As we have already mentioned, the boundary conditions for each individual must be right.
Even though each karmic love is very individual, we found out through the many stories we've already listened to that there are a myriad of "symptoms" that can be found in each of these connections. So when the first meeting has taken place, the following signs are usually to be found in different intensities. Of course, not all symptoms need to occur at once and right at the beginning. Many of these symptoms come into play only when one dual soul partner withdraws and leaves the other partner behind.
Infinite familiarity
As we have already mentioned, the first look into the eyes is the trigger for the energetic wave, the triggering of the learning tasks, the re-establishment of the connection in reality. With that look and with the first words that you change, you feel like you're closer to this person than to anyone else ever before. You feel attracted and infinitely familiar. You seem to know each other deep inside. Often you even have the feeling that this knowledge goes beyond time and space, as if you’ve known each other for centuries - even from previous lives. We assume that this truly is the case. As we have already mentioned in the definition of the term “karma”, this theory also includes the theory of reincarnation - the eternal circle of rebirths. Earlier lives are therefore assumed. It is therefore to be assumed that this unfathomable familiarity on the emotional level results precisely from the fact that you already know one another from different incarnations. Apart from that, of course, your opposite is literally the other half of your own soul that causes this incredible sense of togetherness.
An irresistible magnetism