• This book is divided into 28 chapters. For the duration of four weeks, you can read and implement one passage per day. If one chapter speaks to you on a deeper level, I’d like to encourage you to read it several times. 
  
• It makes sense to read the chapters consecutively because each one builds on the one before it.
• You will find questions at the end of each passage. Please take some time to think about them and answer honestly. What you put down in writing will be more tangible for you. That’s why I recommend that you answer the questions in a written form and that you also take notes of your ideas on how to implement the suggested applications. 
• It may be helpful to read this Quadro together with your partner, friends or in a group setting so that you can discuss what you’ve read. Sharing views with one another can help make things clearer and insights may last longer. 
• I recommend reading the quoted Bible verses in their context. This will help you to understand better why the author said what he said. 
• A person who consumes passively will remain passive. I’d suggest that you ask yourself after each reading, which thought or inspiration you would mention as the most relevant one if you told a friend about it.
• Take a couple of minutes to tell God or a friend about what you’ve read. This will help to nail it down for you.
• If you’re looking for a lasting change in your behavior, you need to practice doing things differently. Write down which steps were important to you while reading. First practice the step that’s most important to you. Later, come back to your list from time to time and choose a new step.
• Don’t try to take all steps at once. Change doesn’t happen in an instant. Allow yourself to learn at your own speed and to grow into freedom. Step by step.

Careful! I certainly don’t recommend forgiving prematurely. Forgiveness involves unforeseeable risks and side effects. If we’ve been attached to someone for a long time through our accusations against them, letting go of our claims will totally change the dynamics of the relationship. It could even open the way for a new beginning in the relationship, this time based on a different foundation. But it could also signify an ending point in a relationship. Once our expectation for compensation does not keep us attached to the other person any longer, there may not be many reasons to stay in contact.

When we forgive someone, we also loose our status as a victim and therefore possibly the compassion and support we had previously received from our friends. Our friends may have supported us for a long time in our battle against the offender. If we forgive now, they may consider this a betrayal. Last but not least, forgiveness calls for a redefinition of our own role. 

If I’m no longer a victim, what am I then? You’ll lose something when you forgive. That’s why it’s worthwhile to look thoroughly at possible risks and side effects of forgiveness. Are you ready to let go of the emotional benefit that you’ve enjoyed so far by not forgiving? Are you prepared to face the risk of an unexpected change in the relationship? The decision is yours. 

Thank you for having gone through this Quadro with me. Enjoy letting go and living on! 

• Time to think
  Looking at a specific situation, identify what you would have to give up when you forgive. 

• Time to act
  Write down which situations have become resolved over the last weeks, and which ones you’d still like to resolve.